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Chupacabra
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And to the kicky ladies - I miss those kicks SO MUCH! There are times though that I swear I feel like.. a phantom kick. Maybe it's just my insides finally settling back into where they should be. |
I totally had that for a long, long time!
My first pregnancy, the placenta was in the front and I didn't feel her until 24 weeks. I definitely felt her after that, but this pregnancy the placenta is wherever its supposed to go and I felt the baby at 14 weeks. SO MUCH ALL THE TIME. Rolling and kicking and punching so strongly, it is very surprising.
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| Posted: Mar 18, 2012 8:37 pm Post subject: |
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Oh my God- you guys are really freaking me out with the sweating stories! I had to change my nightshirt last night because it was literaly dripping when I got up to go to the bathroom. It is so gross!
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Liat
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| Posted: Mar 19, 2012 11:11 am Post subject: |
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I'm not overly sweaty, but I stink! I was one of those lucky people that unless it was horribly warm out or I was exercising I could go without deodorant. Not at all now. I've found myself putting it on all the time plus perfume if it's bad.
Doesn't matter how much I shower. It's gross. Yesterday the mister came to cuddle and then (very politely) moved away from me.
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So. I'm no longer pregnant obviously, but I'm STILL reeling from the hormones. I wake up every single night sweating. My pillow is truly soaked. I hate this.
When I had my ovary out I went through perimenopause, hot flashes were all the time. This is only massive sweating at night, even though I can be freezing when I get in bed. |
I sweat ALL THE TIME right after my baby was born. Every time she'd cry I'd suddenly break out into a massive sweat - it was this incredibly carnal response. It's much better now - I never sweat! (although, I think this means I am not exercising enough.. :)
And to the kicky ladies - I miss those kicks SO MUCH! There are times though that I swear I feel like.. a phantom kick. Maybe it's just my insides finally settling back into where they should be. |
I *think* when you're postpartum your estrogen levels are dropping from the all-time high they're at when you're pregnant, and then they go even lower than normal when you're breastfeeding. And that causes the hot flashes. It's gotten better for me but I still get the occasional hot flash when nursing in the middle of the night.
And yes on the phantom kicks! They are so bizarre. Sometimes I also find myself freaking out that the baby isn't moving and then I catch myself and am like, "Oh right, he's crawling around over there outside my body."
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| And yes on the phantom kicks! They are so bizarre. Sometimes I also find myself freaking out that the baby isn't moving and then I catch myself and am like, "Oh right, he's crawling around over there outside my body." |
Yep, me too. I very frequently find myself putting my hand on the specific side of my belly where I felt her most strongly, and there's usually a fleeting moment of "why can't I feel her?!"
I'm not going to have another baby but I so, so miss being pregnant. I really loved it. |
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LooseyMama
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| Posted: Mar 19, 2012 11:46 am Post subject: |
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| I'm not going to have another baby but I so, so miss being pregnant. I really loved it. |
Me, too. And I've caught myself a couple of times lately resting my hand on my (fat) belly like I used to while I was pregnant. CLEARLY it's time for me to diet! Ha!
And just to round out the "I can't feel him moving because he's crawling over there" stories ... once when my older son was about 4 and my baby was 18 months old, a bunch of mamas and toddlers got together, and I scanned the crowd of kids ... got a lock on my older son but was startled not to see my baby. I actually said aloud, "Where's K?" and one of the other mothers pointed to my lap...where he was latched on, nursing! Ha! Now there's an atrocious example of not being aware of the boundaries of my own skin!
Okay, I'll exit the thread now, since that baby is now 10 years old. But it sure felt good to post something light and positive! :)
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Liat
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Today I ended up sitting on my shower floor to shave my legs. I hadn't shaved them since November (before our vacation) but I hate how hard it is with a huge stomach! There has got to be an easier way.
I remember making Mr. Tramp do them when I was pregnant with the Sprogling (mostly because summer baby and I wanted to wear shorts) and I guess thats what I'll ask him to do again.
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browneyedgirl
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That makes me feel better on the sweating. I don't remember sweating like this, even in the end, but I would wake up HOT all the time. I've been blaming the sheets post partum. Prior, I don't think I sweat a whole lot overall. I did in my head though. Weird. I can be dry every where else, but my head sweats profusely.
liat That's what I did! I sat in the bathtub (praying I could get out) and shaved. It was also a good excuse, as if we need one, to take a bubble bath. I also kept the door open in case I needed to yell for help. But I lucked out and got less hairy during pregnancy, not that I was super hairy before, but I was able to pretty much NOT shave and not be offensive to my husband.
I DO miss being pregnant, I didn't love it, but I didn't hate it either. Even at the worst moments, I'd do it again.
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Nemesis
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I'm having a rough time.
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LooseyMama
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Oh dear, Nemesis! Please say more! You know there are a LOT of peeps here who love you and value you, right? Please don't believe the little voice that only says mean things to you. Tell us more about what you're feeling so we can give you a saner, stronger, more-loving-to-you voice to hear alongside the icky voice, okay?
And you're not the only one here who's battled depression, so I'm sure you'll hear more than just cheerleading.
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Pearliepie
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Oh Nemesis, we're here!
I've got nothing to do all day but wait for this little guy to decide when he's arriving, so if you want to shoot me a PM with your phone number in it I'll totally call you for a chat.
Take care, lovely!
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Liat
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Hugs Nemesis. Depression is rough, especially if you have people telling you that you should be SO. HAPPY! because you are growing a little person. I've had PP depression after my pregnancies to some extent each time and again, people just don't quite understand how you can not be so happy about the baby, not that it has anything to do with that at all.
If you feel like sharing please, do. We are here for you.
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| nemisis hugs hugs hugs hugs tea hugs hugs foot rubs back rubs hugs hugs hugs scalp massage hugs hugs hugs....... |
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Nemesis
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Thanks for the love.
It was really hard to admit that. Its not all sparkles and shine in my world. It takes so, so much energy to pretend that everything is ok .
Reading that article was an aha moment for me.
This really resonated: "Feeling sad, negative, angry and anxious while pregnant is so paralyzing that most women are unable to talk about it. Their silence makes diagnosing depression in pregnancy difficult. Their experience of depression is so far from the image of ‘an ideal pregnancy' that they cannot imagine anyone believing or understanding how they feel. They are ashamed that they are already bad mothers. These thoughts may reoccur and trigger a spiral into a deeper depression for women."
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Pearliepie
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| This really resonated: "Feeling sad, negative, angry and anxious while pregnant is so paralyzing that most women are unable to talk about it. Their silence makes diagnosing depression in pregnancy difficult. Their experience of depression is so far from the image of ‘an ideal pregnancy' that they cannot imagine anyone believing or understanding how they feel. They are ashamed that they are already bad mothers. These thoughts may reoccur and trigger a spiral into a deeper depression for women." |
This is the reason I have made no apologies for not loving being pregnant. I know I've totally horrified some of the ladies I work with by honestly talking about how much I do not enjoy my body being taken over by this...thing, but I don't care.
Someone needs to say it out loud, and people need to be okay with hearing it. The "ideal pregnancy" is such a crock. I have so many friends who gush about how much they love being preg, but then whisper in private about the parts of it they hate.
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