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Sleepyhouse · Joined: 09 Apr 2004 Posts: 7936

I need to vent!!!

I have been on WW for about 6 months I think and have only lost (adjusted for today's WI) like 8lbs. I had been down almost 13.

I am just so frustrated! I admit that I don't follow the plan 100%. I usually eat really well during the week and save my weekly points for weekend meals. I don't always count weekend meals (hard sometimes) but I try to make healthy choices and keep splurges to one meal/ weekend.

I don't exercise much (yeah yeah, I know) but it's hard in the winter. I'm going to try to up it now that I'm at the end of my rope.

This week I gained 3.6. I don't know how or why. I feel horrible going to meetings and seeing people that have just started losing more than me (one woman has done 9 lbs. In a month, another girl has done 20lbs in about 2-3 months.) I feel like I'm failing at this.

To top it off, I feel like I have ZERO real world support. My family eats like shit, coworkers are always inviting me out to lunch and then making me feel bad if I don't go, my BF says he hates that I'm on it because we can't go out and eat the same foods we did before and that me on WW is "no fun".

I just feel totally, totally defeated tonight.
(and I am going out of town with my family this weekend so I know it's going to be a struggle to eat decent which will making bouncing back even harder).

Del · Joined: 09 Apr 2004 Posts: 180 Location: St Paul MN

Try to remember that where you are in your cycle can determine random weight gains. Water retention is for real.
Also, for me sometimes, it can take a week or two for good (or bad) eating to catch up with me on the scale.
I'm also of the "stay on plan really well during the week and then blow it on the weekend" variety. And sometimes it completely baffles me how badly I can blow it on the weekends. WOW.

As for eating out/lack of support from the boy, can you make a date of staying home and preparing a really good meal together. Even "bad" food at home can be better, points-wise, than going out for it. My partner and I have been doing a lot of that. Or if you do go out, immediately whip out the tupperware and slid half the meal into it? I do this a lot and it embarrasses the crap out of my sister, but that's just an added bonus.

I've been gaining and loosing the same 4 pounds since the beginning of December, but I try to remind myself that had I not been paying attention, it would have probably been a 15 pound gain. You'll get there.

angelam · Joined: 07 Apr 2004 Posts: 559 Location: Las Vegas

Oh, Sleepyhouse, that sucks! I don't have much by way of advice, beyond what you already know like exercise, drink water, blah blah. And I've only been doing WW for three weeks, but I just want to let you know I know how it feels to feel so frustrated (it happened to me last week at the mall and it took everything I had not to go and get a giant pretzel!). I'm sending you good thoughts.

Sleepyhouse · Joined: 09 Apr 2004 Posts: 7936

Thanks guys.

I do usually only eat half when we go out and I try to make a point of staying in for dinner at least on either Friday or Saturday night.

Its definitely not period weight gain - as I know when that happens and the timing is all wrong right now.

Its certainly not the first time I've had a gain, but I just feel SO bad about it this time!! And seeing everyone else succeed (seemingly so easily) really frustrates me. Not that I don't want them to! I just don't understand why I have such a hard time at it!

I feel like quitting because I'm eating disgusting turkey sandwiches and carrots every day and it's not even making a difference!!

Boo.

killr · Joined: 13 Jul 2006 Posts: 1399

I have a lot of positive support and Ive never been more grateful than after reading Sleepyhouse's post. Its not that you dont have support, you have people undermining you! Thats just terrible!

I dont feel comfortable contributing to a "weight loss" motivation thread but I would love to contribute to a "healthy eating/more physical activity" motivation thread.

DancingStar · Joined: 22 Jul 2004 Posts: 1093

I like to look at WW like this: If I am not gaining weight it is a blessing. Without WW I think that I would not maintain my current weight. I would be slowly gaining (as evidenced by my weight gain and scale gains when I go off program). So losing is also a bonus at times. (Don't think of your loss as "only 8lbs" because without WW would you be 8lbs heavier or would you be somewhere else on the scale? YMMV.

Also, it sucks that people are not supportive. There was a meeting topic about this (last May). The meeting focused on different types of non-supportors, their types of actions and motivations and some assertive responses to different types of non-supportive styles.

Personally, I would make my goals crystal clear and offer alternative options and activities for people in my life. If people don't respect that, it would be very hard. (And I would also use my points for special activities too and plan, plan, plan! When I am doing well...) At a certain point, I would have to take responsibility for what I am eating as sucky as it is to have non-supporters around. I really think that people in my life would see that I am serious and respect that. If not, they have their own issues that either I would have to ignore, communicate about, or even distance myself from. (An example, Not saying that this is true for you, but one meeting example was a partner who was scared of their partner's weight loss. The unsupportive person felt that if their partner lost weight then they would leave them for another person. Another category of non-supporters were people who are jealous of the WW'ers willpower, choices and positive results and therefore was acting out by sabotaging the WW'er.) If you think of the unsupportive person's motivators then maybe you will be more determined to stick with your own goals. It is nice to have supports in place, but if they aren't there it is up to you to work your own program.

Also, I would try not to make comparisons to other people. And it is probably hard for other people. I think the healthiest weight loss is a long, slow, and steady journey. I think accepting that is key.

I don't know if any of this is relevant. Good luck!

Edited for some grammar. I am sure that I didn't catch it all.

Sleepyhouse · Joined: 09 Apr 2004 Posts: 7936

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silverfish2007 · Joined: 10 Apr 2004 Posts: 2060

im sorry you feel defeated and it sucks. the weekend-splurging works fairly well for me to maintain my weight but i could never lose weight doing it, when ive tried. if you run the math, it becomes apparent how easy it is to sabatoge a decent weekly deficit with just a couple of "cheats." it sucks quite a bit, especially if it has you ending up feeling like you are giving up things you like (foods, activities like date night dinners, etc.). for myself personally i really had to learn to re-frame a lot of things. my family has always been supportive, but even so i had to learn that when we got together for a big meal even on holidays and stuff, it wasnt about the food. i also had to come to terms with being an emotional eater and though im the least religious person you will ever meet, the book women, food, and god really helped me.

maybe try tracking 100% for a week or two and see where you get. if you lose weight, you will know thats what it takes for you. if you still gain, then you'll have a record of exactly what you did and everything and you can examine that and try something different.
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Sleepyhouse · Joined: 09 Apr 2004 Posts: 7936

I guess I have to decide what I want more - to be able to splurge on the weekends or to (maybe) lose weight faster.

This weekend I am going to commit to getting some exercise and then I'm going to hit it hard next week.

angelam · Joined: 07 Apr 2004 Posts: 559 Location: Las Vegas

That sounds like a good idea, and even though you're only going to eat once per weekend, I know it's SO SO hard to get anything that's really good, so maybe it's worth figuring if you might be able to make it once/month. Sounds like we need our own little WW support group-- maybe an email list or something? I don't know if anyone would be interested, but I'd be up for it, where we could email and talking about staying on plan, motivation, etc.

milyssa · Joined: 07 Apr 2004 Posts: 2942 Location: Western Mass

scarlet · Joined: 07 Apr 2004 Posts: 2287 Location: boston

I'm happy to see this thread because I joined (online) WW about 5 weeks ago (maybe more) and have totally lost motivation, stopped tracking, and was about to just forget about it :/ I followed it closely for the first 2 weeks and lost about 2lbs then fizzled. I think I was expecting a bigger loss.

I've been doing the 30-Day-Shred every day for the past 12 days and I imagine that doing all that exercising along with tracking again will HAVE to help so I'm ready to start again.

I have no idea what the original points system was like but I really like the new one because it reminds me of (my interpretation of) the ETL diet..loads of fruit & veggies.
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cinnamongirl · Joined: 12 May 2004 Posts: 639 Location: in the forest

i'll be checking in here, too. back on the new plan for 2 weeks and i got really lazy this past weekend ALREADY! i am doing e - tools and i am not sure it works as well for me as pen & paper and meetings but we'll see. i lost 1 lb the first week... we'll see if i can keep it up, back to the gym today after almost a year!

i LOVE that fruits and veggies are 0 points. when i did WW years ago it used to make me crazy that i had to count points for oranges and carrots!
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Sleepyhouse · Joined: 09 Apr 2004 Posts: 7936

I am considering doing just the online tools rather than meetings because I feel my leader is just...dumb. But I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be as successful on it.

Instead I'm going to try out other meetings. I feel like because of where I live I'm not going to get the brightest bulbs in the WW World. Which is sad.

As for my gain last week - my weigh in is tomorrow. The scale had dipped down a bit yesterday but it's back up today (I'm blaming my dinner which was probably high in sodium and which I'm unfortunately eating again tonight.)
I would be happy with losing HALF of what I gained last week. Ugh.