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mohawk

Joined: 12 Jan 2005 Posts: 1195 Location: Saint Louis
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Posted: Mar 21, 2012 12:27 pm Post subject: Parenting vents! |
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The thread where we can all blow off steam about tantrums, late nights, co-decision making and the like. Add yours! _________________ She believed she could, so she did. |
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mohawk

Joined: 12 Jan 2005 Posts: 1195 Location: Saint Louis
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Posted: Mar 21, 2012 12:30 pm Post subject: |
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My mom fed Ruby Taco B*ll for lunch! AHHH! She knows this is something I do not want Ruby eating! She apologized, but it was more of a "it's already done" apology. She didn't ask me first if Ruby could have Taco Hell (the answer would have been a resounding NO) and it frustrates me to no end. I know it is hard for her to constantly be thinking of food options for lunch for 2 toddlers, but Taco Hell should never be the answer. AHHHH! _________________ She believed she could, so she did. |
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jettesette

Joined: 08 Apr 2004 Posts: 2389 Location: the middle of tennessee
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Posted: Mar 21, 2012 2:43 pm Post subject: |
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i totally feel you Mohawk- once my dad took Elliott to mc*don*alds.
I FREAKED. we do not eat fast food and we do not want our kid eating fast food. Not to mention how much not the kidcentric happy meal culture of that dang place irks me to no end. I mean if we had to get rid of Joe Camel HOW is Ronald not a problem???
He still asks to go there- it just seems so awesome in his mind- that place and wal*m*rt. He thinks that place is the bees knees and the one time we had to there on vacation he ran around like he was in heaven. _________________ I am so strong I am going to break all your rules with my bare hands! -Elliott
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Chupacabra

Joined: 03 May 2006 Posts: 1572 Location: Astoria, New York
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Posted: Mar 21, 2012 3:47 pm Post subject: |
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Blech I know this feeling all too well. Thankfully my inlaws haven't (and wouldn't) go the fast food route, but there was a long while and a very unpleasant time when my kid was being fed things (HFCS, non-organic dairy) that I was specifically not okay with, despite telling them many times. There is nothing more frustrating than someone not listening to your wishes for YOUR child. I really tried to let it go by saying to myself that I can't expect to control everything, but then I kept remembering, uh yeah, I can. She's my kid and she's only 1. Rage.
My husband had I guess a fight with his mom about it and now I pack lunch on the days she'll spend with grandma. Less for me to worry about. _________________ Etsy!
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Crumb
Joined: 05 Apr 2007 Posts: 2395
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Posted: Mar 22, 2012 8:23 am Post subject: |
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| This morning the Crumblette told me I'm ugly and tried to slap me in the face because I told her she had to wear panties under her leotard for dance class. She is WRETCHED in the mornings. She's horrible regardless of the amount of sleep she gets - well-rested, short on sleep, in between...doesn't matter. Almost every day starts with her snarling at me like a weasel who's been poked with a stick. Today, with the slapping, was especially fun. |
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cake

Joined: 15 Mar 2007 Posts: 2382
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Posted: Mar 22, 2012 10:49 am Post subject: |
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Seneca just discovered that if he doesn't want to get into his carseat, he can stiffen his whole body and refuse to sit in it. He's a little stringbean, but that boy is STRONG. And I hate how violent it feels to be wrestling him into the damn seat when I can't even reason with him about it. _________________ What can't that centaur woman do? |
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Aryn

Joined: 07 Apr 2004 Posts: 1389 Location: Astoria NY
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Posted: Mar 22, 2012 11:20 am Post subject: |
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| And I hate how violent it feels to be wrestling him into the damn seat when I can't even reason with him about it. |
Ugh, I struggle with this DAILY. K is a monster... not quite two and about 35 lbs. he is so strong. he is always breaking things, just by accident because he doesn't realize how strong he is! And he's a little late with his words, so explaining things to him doesn't work all the time, and I end up having to physically remove him. But I hate it. It feels so yucky but I don't feel that I have a choice.
I've got my own vent. K's birthday. Last year we ended up having two parties because two sets of his grandparents (we have 3) "didn't want to get in the way" - but it was too much. So this year I said "this is when we're celebrating, be here or don't, but this is your chance." So they're all coming at once (in addition to the other party guests). But now my dad is pouting and trying to get me to change my plans around so it's more convenient for him! After going back and forth with him for a couple days I finally just said "Look, I don't appreciate the guilt trip, this is what's happening, take it or leave it." Which makes me feel bitchy but, argh. I've got too much else going on to be bending over backwards for my dad.
This is going to be the best party ever, by the way. _________________ Are you familiar with the old robot phrase "DOES NOT COMPUTE"? |
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dance

Joined: 14 Feb 2006 Posts: 1121 Location: little old farmhouse
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Posted: Mar 22, 2012 12:22 pm Post subject: |
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Crumb, I'm sorry that was your morning, but I am selfishly glad to hear that S isn't the only ....passionate...kindergartener. You know I work with little kids and people here sometimes act like it's skocking or innapropriate that S still throws down a serious tantrum from time to time. I eventually wound up talking to my boss (Masters in Child Dev.) about it, and she recommended a series of books called "Your __ Year Old," by Louise Bates Ames. "Your 6 Year Old" is subtitled "Loving and Defiant." Right away it says that 6's are "emboiled" with their mothers- and it is definitely true at our house. And sometimes I just don't enjoy the time we are spending together for like, a whole afternoon. Hours and hours. Of freaking out becuase she can't get her way. UGH!!! And then the next day she could be so sweet and helpful and kind...the book has helped me see it developmentally instead of personally, but it's really exhausting, all the arguing. _________________
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mohawk

Joined: 12 Jan 2005 Posts: 1195 Location: Saint Louis
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Posted: Mar 22, 2012 1:58 pm Post subject: |
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Aw, thanks for the support everyone! I was so upset yesterday, but am feeling better and know one meal won't ruin Ruby. My mom greeted us today with a green smoothie for the both of us :)
Aw, crumb! Big hugs! I don't look forward to those mornings :(
cake, I hate that! Ruby just turns and turns until she is completely tangled up in everything and hurting. THAT is fun, gah! I am guilty of giving her my phone or something to distract her (Mickey Mouse Clubhouse) when its time to get in the carseat...
Aryn - love the penguin theme! Make them come to you and bend to K's schedule. Adults can be so ridiculous. _________________ She believed she could, so she did. |
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Crumb
Joined: 05 Apr 2007 Posts: 2395
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Posted: Mar 22, 2012 2:34 pm Post subject: |
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| ...people here sometimes act like it's skocking or innapropriate that S still throws down a serious tantrum from time to time. |
We have far fewer tantrums now then when she was small, but what she lacks in quantity, she makes up for in quality. She can downright viscious when she's mad. I can't even tell you how many times we've had the talk about how it's not ok to say the meanest thing you can think of just because you're mad. She always feels bad afterward, and 99% of the time she is the sweetest, most loving little girl you can imagine. But when she's pissed, she's awful.
Sigh. Teaching them to talk, that's where we go wrong. :/
ETA: Also, her teacher told us at our annual parent-teacher conference that the Crumblette has taken to SPITTING on her classmates when they annoy her. Awesome. |
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Liat

Joined: 15 Apr 2004 Posts: 2012 Location: Calgary, Alberta
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Posted: Mar 22, 2012 6:57 pm Post subject: |
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We are into field trip season at our preschool. Unfortunately (thankfully?) the kids generally don't have field trips on the same day, but that means that the one who still has to go to school has a freak out.
The other day Little Bit got to go to a pizza place and grocery store at the bottom of the hill from the school. She bragged a little (Sprogling had been on a field trip the week before) and I got to deal with half an hour of screaming and crying from the Sprogling. Most of it happening in his classroom. His teachers tried to distract him but finally I had to physically pry him off my legs and run out the door. _________________ I truncated my name!
The Lover, The Lunatic and the Poet are of Imagination all compact. |
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Liat

Joined: 15 Apr 2004 Posts: 2012 Location: Calgary, Alberta
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Posted: Mar 22, 2012 6:59 pm Post subject: |
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Oh and also, Pipkin has become the most clingy, dependant kid ever.
Right now I am hiding in my room. The door is locked. I can hear him playing with the other two so I know everyone is fine. I desperately needed just five minutes where I didn't have a small person on me. I'm not enjoying touch much this pregnancy and I've just reached my limit today.
Pipkin used to really just want to play with his siblings, and they mostly included him. Now all he wants to do is have me entertain him and hold him. _________________ I truncated my name!
The Lover, The Lunatic and the Poet are of Imagination all compact. |
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ruggedchick
Joined: 08 Apr 2004 Posts: 4710 Location: Saint Paul, MN
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Posted: Mar 22, 2012 8:27 pm Post subject: |
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Declan isn't a tantrum thrower. But. Once a week or so he absolutely refuses to take a nap and therefore is a total jerk all day. Can I call my kid a jerk? I mean as long as it's my own kid, right? Anyway, he whiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiines all day on nap-refusal days. All. Freaking. Day. Every second. Everything I say or do is met with "Ehhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaeeeeeee Iiiiiiiii dooooooooon't waaaaaaaaant tooooooooo." Today I happened to have a boatload of stuff to do. I was really, really counting on that 2 hour nap. It never happened and there were so many points of the day where I just wanted to scream "KNOCK IT THE HELL OFF!! JUST STOP IT RIGHT NOW!!!!"
And then once, when I said "WHY are you crying?" I guess it came out sharper than I intended because he looked shocked and then just WAILED and WAILED and then said "Mama, why you mad at me?" and my heart broke into a million pieces. Ugh. _________________ beefy and confused. |
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happyhats
Joined: 04 Sep 2005 Posts: 1445
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Posted: Mar 23, 2012 2:50 am Post subject: |
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Nicky is sick right now...running a slight fever, sleeping a lot more than usual, and has a slight "dry throat" cough. I've been giving him otc meds and extra cuddles. Hes extremely fussy of course, and Nicky is already a bit of a highstrung guy.
Scarlet is seeing Nicky getting more attention, and her playmate doesnt really want to play so she is being OBNOXIOUS. Getting in his face, my face, screetching at the top of her lungs, throwing tantrums, etc.
So we all go to grab a shower this morning. Long story short, lately the only way I get to shower and also give baths without fights is for all of us to cram together to shower. Well, that turns into two children throwing tantrums in the shower so I let them out and dare to shower on my own.
I hear something spill, and talk of "marshmallows". They ate the bottle of hylands flu for kids stuff. The whole bottle apparently as I can find NONE left and Scarlet won't tell me anything but giggle. Thank god that the poison contrl nurse said it will only casuuse upset belly, but I feel like the worst mother ever that I had to even call. I though the bottle was out of reeach, but nothing is out of Scarlet's reach lately. _________________ keep it simple |
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featherstoryaniweda
Joined: 02 Jul 2011 Posts: 396 Location: CA
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Posted: Mar 26, 2012 3:33 am Post subject: |
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Wow happyhats...I'm so sorry that happened to you and glad it didn't cause much discomfort for the kiddos.
I can totally relate to bathing all together and sometimes wanting/needing a shower to yourself.
My 4 y.o. is totally out of control lately...I mean she is whiny almost all day long, a lot of days, she screams and yells anytime I say something she doesn't want me to say and putting her to bed often means that after trying to get her listen to me and her trying to intimidate negatively, I end up having to pick her up, while she's kicking, screaming, scratching me and put her into the bed where she freaks out for a few hours before finally going to sleep. _________________ My personal blog!
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