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tinyrock
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| I'm an only child and have one first cousin. Being an only grandkid RULED. : ) It never really occurred to me to want a sibling - I got plenty of time with kids my age from school and activities. As cake said, it is what it is. Different, not better or worse. |
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pony j
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| Posted: Aug 03, 2011 3:33 pm Post subject: |
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It's starting to tick again. It's my 8th anniversary today and we are in a really stable great spot and it's been on my mind...
...but I don't really like other people's kids (don't take that the wrong way, it's just that I'm not a squeeeebabiesyay kind of person) and lately the mister has made some comments about how he's glad we don't have any, and...
...it's basically just really confusing to not know what you want.
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Sleepyhouse
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I WANT ONE SO BAD LATELY!!!!!!!!
So badly, that when I see babies in stores I'm tempted to ask if I can hold them. I would but I don't trust that I wouldn't run off with one!! Haha.
BF bought a new used car and one of the first things I noticed "I don't think you can fit a car seat back here!!!" |
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Chiquita
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| Posted: Aug 04, 2011 10:47 am Post subject: |
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| pony j wrote: |
It's starting to tick again. It's my 8th anniversary today and we are in a really stable great spot and it's been on my mind...
...but I don't really like other people's kids (don't take that the wrong way, it's just that I'm not a squeeeebabiesyay kind of person) and lately the mister has made some comments about how he's glad we don't have any, and...
...it's basically just really confusing to not know what you want. |
Not to try and sway you, because it really is confusing, but... MrC had it a policy that he "never touch other people's kids or dogs". He is an amazing daddy now, and while he still won't touch other people's dogs he is in love with his nieces and god-child (but pretty hands off on tiny babies). One of the best things I ever heard was a professor of mine, during our first class and her introduction about herself, say that she had a son and she didn't really like having a young child she loves him now that she can have adult conversations with him. (I think I might have been sort of the same way, baby part was sweet but LOVE having a 9yr old). |
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checkersumthing
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| Posted: Aug 04, 2011 10:55 am Post subject: |
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| One of the best things I ever heard was a professor of mine, during our first class and her introduction about herself, say that she had a son and she didn't really like having a young child she loves him now that she can have adult conversations with him. (I think I might have been sort of the same way, baby part was sweet but LOVE having a 9yr old). |
My partner has asked a few times (not very seriously) if we could just adopt a teenager :) Which is funny, because isn't that the period of time when most people would like to put their kids up for adoption?
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| Posted: Aug 04, 2011 12:14 pm Post subject: |
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| Chiquita wrote: |
| One of the best things I ever heard was a professor of mine, during our first class and her introduction about herself, say that she had a son and she didn't really like having a young child she loves him now that she can have adult conversations with him. (I think I might have been sort of the same way, baby part was sweet but LOVE having a 9yr old). |
My partner has asked a few times (not very seriously) if we could just adopt a teenager :) Which is funny, because isn't that the period of time when most people would like to put their kids up for adoption? |
When our newphews got here last year my husband went into 'I want one' mode. I would tease him when he would be home and both babies were there to wait until they were both crying their precious little faces off, change diapers, etc. It didn't matter. However. We spent some time with my long lost brother and his step teenagers in May. THAT was great (obviously not, haha) birth control. He realized it's older kids, not babies that can be scary.
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milyssa
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| Posted: Aug 04, 2011 3:48 pm Post subject: |
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| checkersumthing wrote: |
| Chiquita wrote: |
| One of the best things I ever heard was a professor of mine, during our first class and her introduction about herself, say that she had a son and she didn't really like having a young child she loves him now that she can have adult conversations with him. (I think I might have been sort of the same way, baby part was sweet but LOVE having a 9yr old). |
My partner has asked a few times (not very seriously) if we could just adopt a teenager :) Which is funny, because isn't that the period of time when most people would like to put their kids up for adoption? |
LOL A and I both have ticking clocks...but for now logic, finances, etc. are drowning out the ticking...but whereas when we see kids out and about and I look at A and he KNOWS I want one or he's busy grinning at the cute little girl or boy in line in front of us at the cash register or whatever...when we pass tweens/teens at the mall I frequently look at him after we pass and announce that our kids won't be doing X, Y, Z, or better yet they'll just skip being teenagers! Ha :)
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miss e
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| Posted: Aug 04, 2011 4:07 pm Post subject: |
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My bestie is preggo.
My sister is going to start trying for #2 early next year.
My hubsters is starting grad school at the end of the month.
I am conflicted and sad. How are we going to have a baby when he's got 2 years of school and can only work part time? My parents generously offered to help us out with diapers and offered to babysit during work hours since my mom already watches N during the days, but . . . yeah.
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happyhats
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At least you know that you have support, miss E, whatever you choose. That's awesome.
I actually don't fear the teenage/tween years all that much. I love my little ones but the idea of them having some independance seems so awesome right now. Plus, I can understand/relate to teenagers a lot more than infants and toddlers. Maybe because I remember it better? It's like, I remember things about being very young, and I try to give my children the kind of life I had and was happy/comfortable with, but my memories have a lot of that dreamlike, hazy quality to it.
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cake
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On the other people's kids tip, I am still not that into other people's kids. I don't think you need to somehow become a "kid person" before you have your own. Though I do have tons more sympathy for parents than I used to, and am much more horrified by stories of bad things happening to children. Not that I wasn't before, it's just a much more visceral reaction that wasn't there before I could imagine my own child in that scenario.
I'm so scared of having a teenager, because I was a huge jerk to my parents. My husband works with teens for a living, though, so I think he's looking forward to being the expert.
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happyhats
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I feel similarly to cake. I think I have more sympathy for parents now and more empathy for parents, but I'm still not one of those people that "LOVE" all children just because they are children, ya know? Just like adults there are some children I feel closer to than others and some that "bug" me. I do think I have more patience, but that patience has also come from dealing with the same issues with my own child I am seeing in another.
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pinkie
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I'm in the stage of wanting to not want a baby- for practical, selfish, financial, logistical and assorted other reasons. My bestie convinced me that getting a little puppy to love on might quiet the urges. In planning for this, I'm babysitting my sweet magical doggy nephew Paco, who is basically love on a leash. Yeah, babysitting the perfect dog does not make me want a baby less.
My husband's grandfather passed away this morning. It was the best death possible at 98, in his own bed, asleep, held by his wife of 73 years. He had just started to mentally deteriorate in the last few months. So it's a sad/joyful time with family flying in, and always on the phone and sleeping on each other's sofa's. And in the rare moments that they aren't pressuring me about how much the family needs babies, I'm thinking about how much much I want to have babies. Plus the whole life/death circle of life bs that I'm suddenly susceptible to!!! Gah! PUT A BABY IN MY BELLY
But, you know, super serious real-life grown up reasons why it's a terrible idea? Am I a terrible person for wishing this didn't have to be a deliberate choice? I would LOVE to just wake up pregnant. Does that mean I'm really not ready?
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puck
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pinkie, i don't know if you were glittery when the partner had a pregnancy scare? it was like .02% chance that he might be, if even that, but oh we were so scared/hopeful.
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pinkie
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| Posted: Nov 11, 2011 5:11 pm Post subject: |
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| pinkie, i don't know if you were glittery when the partner had a pregnancy scare? it was like .02% chance that he might be, if even that, but oh we were so scared/hopeful. |
Yes!!! I like to joke about sipping on some oil from wrestling night at a nakkie boy bar-- I feel like that's my best genuine possibility of getting Ooops! pregnant. And I'm so old and settled that I'm only in that situation 4 or 5 times a year. And who know if I'l be fertile those times? The odds are SO BAD.
Edited to add: I'm jealous of your scare ;)
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inky
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| Posted: Nov 12, 2011 2:49 pm Post subject: |
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Dear pinkie,
Imma be siphoning semen all over town JUST FOR YOU.
Love,
inky |
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